It’s not a particularly new idea that it is easy to say something to a child that causes pain now and into the future. But one mother offers an interesting personal account of how she responds. Most parents do OK, says Janice White.
“However, I think as parents we underestimate the impact of what we say and how we say it. It is possible to intend to communicate a specific message but in reality communicate something different,” she writes.
She remembers actually losing friends because she corrected them so often on language. She did not like people calling her daughter “big,” for example. The word implies not cute and pretty, she says. She prefers “you are nice and tall.”
Read her entire account: